Marital Submission:
Often an unused blessing
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We are committed to Biblical
marriages and we realize that mutual submission requires mutual
sacrifice and the mutual surrendering of the "self-life." Mutual
submission in marriage is a command in scripture it is not
optional nor driven by "special" circumstances, and will often
require great grace and insight from God to do it properly and
wisely.
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Ephesians 5:21, Submit to one another out of reverence for
Christ.
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Ephesians 5:33, However, each one of you also must love his wife
as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
Basic Questions: An honest look in the mirror first!
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Do my questions come from
control or concern?
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Am I really interested in my mate's day, feelings, and needs?
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Am I motivated by love of self or love of spouse?
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Am I allowing my partner to be mentally, emotionally,
physically and spiritually what God wants them to be?
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Before I address an area of concern, have I taken a hard look
in the mirror first?
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Before I require the other to submit have I sought to
initiate and practice a costly submission in our marriage?
Basic Principles: Principles of consideration and grace that we will
both live by!
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We have chosen that if we
are out past normal bedtimes, we will call home to keep the
other informed.
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We have chosen that if we are in a private meeting with the
opposite gender, we will call and let the other know.
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We have chosen not to have "mature" exceptions for us as
parents in the area of entertainment.
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We have chosen to live so our personal lifestyle is easily
explainable to our kids.
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We have chosen to have the same expectations for each other.
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We have chosen to encourage each other to have alone time,
ministry time and mentoring time.
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We have chosen to make each other our best friend.
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We have chosen not to have opposite gender "best" or
"special" friends or confidants.
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We have chosen to have shared experiences and surrender our
independence.
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We have chosen not to say unflattering things about each
other to others, even if “factual”, and not to tease about areas
of vulnerability.
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